adminSelf-defeating or self-destructive behavior is basically conquering yourself. Several years ago, I met a young man who showed all signs of self-defeating behavior. He was fighting all the time, argumentative, many sexual partners, on drugs. He didn’t care for himself or anyone else as he came to the realization of a 30 year to life sentence. Destructive behavior can take on many behaviors such as self-harm, people sometimes self-medicate under stress with drugs or alcohol, being promiscuous, having multiple partners sexually, aggressiveness, attention-seeking, procrastination avoiding difficult situations, and circumstances that may cause you to not meet deadlines or important events or even delay others. It can be emotionally and physically draining and could result in lifelong misery of illness brought on by the behavior or emotional attacks such as anxiety, depression, sudden or extreme outbursts of anger or emotion that can be debilitating.
Being more self-assure about who you are in the future, your purpose in life can bring stability, resilience, better judgment, a sense of certainty. I don’t mean more dependent on self but more confident or courageous in self but knowing – we are who God says we are. Coming to a deeper understanding of your own ability will allow you to discern those around you that you can come to trust. Allowing for a deeper knowledge of self and more intimate relationship with God as our greatest resource. In time, the ability to make better decisions can grow along with being a influencer. This young man unfortunately went through many trials that landed him in a place that seems hopeless. He defied all odds and began to seek God out for comfort. It’s never too late and we have an opportunity to work on our inner self so that we can help others
